Katlego Sekhu
A listener shares that her first pregnancy was a traumatic experience. The father of her child left her, forcing her to navigate the journey alone while also caring for her siblings.
Recently, she’s found a new love interest and things have been going well. However, he desires children, while she’s hesitant due to the trauma of her first pregnancy. She’s unsure how to broach this sensitive topic and has turned to The Best T in the City for guidance on navigating this delicate situation.
“Thirteen years ago, I fell pregnant, and it was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. My baby’s father left as soon as I told him the news, leaving me to go through the entire nine months alone. I was often unwell, with high blood pressure, and had to do all the clinic visits on my own. When I gave birth, even my mother couldn’t be there, as she was working and looking after my younger siblings. I had no one to lean on and had to teach myself how to be a mother.
“Three years ago, I met a wonderful man after a few failed relationships. He’s been so supportive and recently asked me if I wanted more children. I said yes initially, but as time went on, I realised I was too afraid to go through pregnancy again. He keeps bringing it up, but every time I think about what I endured, I freeze up.
“My boyfriend believes I’ve stopped using contraceptives, but I haven’t. He knows about my trauma, but he tends to dismiss it, assuring me that he’d be there for me every step of the way. I’m also 37, so I know time isn’t exactly on my side. But honestly, I don’t think I can go through it again. What should I do?”
Anonymous
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