Katlego Sekhu

A listener recently shared that he bought his wife her first car so she could be independent and not rely on him for transportation.
At first, everything was going smoothly, but now she has her brother driving her around. This came as a surprise to him because he got her the car so she could drive herself.
He also noticed that her brother-in-law is using the car for his own benefit, which feels like a betrayal to him. It’s frustrating to see the car being used in a way that was not intended.
“After years of begging my wife, she finally got her driver’s license early this year. I was so happy because it was going to come in handy. I started to make her drive more and when I saw that she had gained a bit of confidence I bought her a car. She was excited but after a few weeks, she would call her brother to drive her whenever she wanted to go somewhere.
“I asked her why she doesn’t drive, and she would complain she is afraid or that she is not in the mood to drive. This annoyed me but what’s worse, the car now seems to be her brothers. Whenever he wants to go somewhere he comes to take the car sometimes for days. I told my wife I didn’t like this, but she just brushed it off.
“I didn’t buy this car for my brother-in-law but for my wife. Would I be wrong to tell them both to just leave it? I mean she can go back to taxis until she’s ready to drive. I don’t want a situation where something happens to the car in my brother-in-law’s hands and I again have to fix it. Am I being irrational? What could be my blind spot.”
Anonymous
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