Katlego Sekhu

A listener, feeling extremely disappointed by his cousin, reached out to the Best T in the City with Tbose to express his concerns. He mentioned that he had gone out of his way to help his cousin find a job and get his life on track.
However, he recently discovered that his cousin had a Thanksgiving celebration to celebrate his achievements and upcoming wedding, and he wasn’t invited. Feeling betrayed, he wants to know if there are any blind spots he might be missing.
“After two years of being unemployed, I was able to help my cousin get a job. Three months into his job, he got a promotion and was given a permanent contract. I was happy for him, as I knew how much
of a hard worker, he is.
“Now, I heard from my mother that my cousin will be having a Thanksgiving ceremony, and after that, he wants to pay lobola for his long-term girlfriend in October. I was hurt that he didn’t tell me personally about these events. If he can come to me when the chips are down, why can’t he do the same when the sun is shining? Is it all I am good for?
“We were always close from a young age, and it meant a lot for me to assist in getting him a job and pulling his socks to secure the bag. But this has hurt me, I thought we were tight. I have since decided that I will not attend the Thanksgiving ceremony unless he calls me personally. My
My mother says I am going to cause family conflict and that her being told means that my siblings and I are also invited.
“I just don’t want to feel like I am forcing myself into my cousin’s life, I mean, this man is supposed to be my brother. I have decided to remove myself and let him be official. I know I sound petty, but are my feelings
valid too? I will go as my mom instructs, but when I get there, will I be wrong to confront him? But how do I say without sounding entitled?”
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