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So when is the right time to move on after the passing of a spouse? This question has been pondered by people for generations.
The Best T in the City’s Tbose shares his perspective on this layered question.
The man affectionately known as Uncle T notes that “different customs have different durations.” But for this sake, he uses the Bible as a standard.
“You need to mourn for at least a year. After that, there will be cleansing, and after that, you will be free to date.”
But being free to date does not mean being free from consequences. Uncle T emphasises that although you are technically free after burying your spouse, it is important to consider the feelings of those around you.
“But remember, you are free from the day you bury him/her because that is when your contract ends. ‘Till death do us part, right?’ But remember, the reason it is difficult is not because you fell in love or found someone new. It’s for the people around you.”
Uncle T advises against rushing into a new relationship, especially when children are involved.
“One thing I will caution against is when you date and want that person to move into your home where your kids reside. That can be a bit overwhelming for the kids. If you have met the right person and the destination is forever, what is the rush?”
@kayaon959 When is it the right time to move on from the passing of a spouse? Our favourite Uncle T shares his thoughts!#kaya959 #bestt ♬ original sound – Kaya 959
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