Katlego Sekhu
A listener shared that he met his girlfriend through a dating app a couple of months ago, and they hit it off. She is everything he’s ever wanted in a woman, but there’s one issue – he’s not physically attracted to her. His sister reassured him that the physical attraction would come with time. Now he’s torn between continuing the relationship or ending it. He’s wondering if there are any blind spots he might be missing.
“Me and this woman met on a dating app. We hit it off well however, when we finally met, I realized that I am not physically attracted to her.
“My sister keeps telling me that I can always learn how to love her, but it’s been a little over three months and we still have not had sex. Emotionally she is everything, we get along well, but the attraction just isn’t there.
“She has started hinting she would love for us to take things to the next step. Should I let my guard down and do the deed with her maybe that will help us connect on a deeper level, or should i just accept that we can’t go beyond friendship? What could be my blind spot?”
Anonymous
Ronald on X points out that men are often visual beings. “The blind spot is that after the dance, just kiss that friendship goodbye as well because the resentment will begin. Save the friendship and forget about the dance brother!”
Viwe, also on X, emphasized the importance of finding someone who is “emotionally” connected to you for a successful relationship. “With communication and consistency being there, look physicall attraction is important as the other two, but sometimes its not 100% bro that 80/20, dont miss out on a good woman but also be true to you.”
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