Katlego Sekhu
A listener shares that her husband doesn’t want to adopt her late sister’s child. What’s even more upsetting is that her husband adopted his late girlfriend’s child in the past, but now he seems to have double standards when it comes to her niece. She’s starting to feel resentful towards her stepchild and wonders if there are any blind spots she might be missing.
“When I met my husband, he told me that he is a single father. He adopted his late partner’s child. I was pleasantly surprised. After a year, we got married. Last year, my sister passed away and I asked my husband if my niece could come live with us, and he flatly refused. He told me that my niece should go live with her dad. This broke my heart, but I also feel he has double standards.
“He raised his late girlfriend’s child; he didn’t have to because they were not even married. I don’t want to take out my anger and frustrations on the boy, but I am starting to resent him. My niece is family, and my mother is also sick; hence, I wanted to take her in. We still don’t have kids of our own. Am I reading too much into things?
“He tends to say; “what you do on the right, you also need to do on the left.” Like, when we buy groceries for my mom, he insists we also need to do the same for his. Then why is he refusing my niece? This is important to me.”
Anonymous
