Katlego Sekhu

A listener who feels that his girlfriend is a financial burden has reached out to The Best T in the City with Tbose. He is the sole provider back home, supporting his two siblings and his aunt, who depend on him. He has tried explaining this to his partner, but she doesn’t understand. Because he loves his girlfriend, he wants to know how to overcome these challenges and make their relationship work.
“I’ve been with my girlfriend for a year now. It has been going very well; however, sometimes I feel that she is selfish. My girlfriend is draining me financially. She has always been with wealthy men, and I believe that because I have my own place in an affluent estate and a nice car, she may have assumed that I am also wealthy.
“When we started dating, I explained to her that we had lost both parents, and therefore I am taking care of two siblings who are still in school. My siblings live with my aunt, and every month I have to send a lot of money to her to ensure that all her needs are taken care of. After I told her this, she told me that it was the reason why I could not afford her.
“I feel she is being unfair because I do try to take her out and get her nice things once in a while. I am just not able to send her the allowance she wants every month. I can never turn my back on my aunt, siblings, and cousins. They are all that I have, and I have to ensure that they are always taken care of first. How can I make my girlfriend understand the situation? I don’t want to end the relationship over money, plus I really do love her. Will I ever be good enough for her?”
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