Katlego Sekhu

Anonymous finds herself torn between staying true to herself and changing her dress code to please her boyfriend and his family. The couple’s love story, which began unexpectedly, had blossomed over the past two years, seemingly free from judgment. However, with the prospect of marriage and the intention to send his uncles for a formal proposal, her boyfriend is now raising concerns about how her dress code might be perceived by the family.
“My boyfriend and I met at a local Chesa Nyama. We both thought it would just be a one-night stand, but here we are two years later. Things have been going well, but as of late, my boyfriend has been complaining about the way I dress. He says he wants to send his uncles to my home in December; however, he is worried how I dress will not sit well with his mother and aunts.
“Ever since we met, I have been wearing short things, and I told him that when I visit his family, I will dress appropriately. However, he wants me to have a whole wardrobe transformation. He no longer wants me to wear pants, short dresses, or even short sleeves. Don’t get me wrong; I love this man, and I have been waiting for us to get married. However, this whole thing has me wondering: What if there are other things I will have to sacrifice just to make him happy? I also happen to be 37, so as you can imagine, time is not on my side. I love how I dress; it is one of the ways I express myself. Would I be naive to change how I dress for my man?”
Anonymous
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