Kaya 959 Reporter
Many couples worldwide are ready to call it quits and are looking for quick fixes to rescue their marriage.
To be honest, this is a common issue, but the remedies are rarely simple.
Accepting responsibility for your part in the quarrel or disagreement is a good place to start.
The power of one individual to do so can alter the relationship’s entire dynamic.
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Point of View with Phemelo Motene spoke to Magauta and Nhlanhla Zwane who shed light on what needs to happen when you find yourself in a challenging space of giving up on your marriage.
LISTEN TO THE FULL CONVERSATION HERE:
How to know if it’s worth fixing?
“The thing about being fed up is very closely related to exhaustion, we usually make the worst of decisions when we are exhausted. Sometimes the exhaustion comes from a lack of nutrition, sometimes there’s a straightforward tip we give to couples, which is don’t fight on an empty stomach. “
Learn how to fight the right way in a marriage
Magauta made a point that there’s no marriage that doesn’t involve conflict and that as marriage counsellors they teach couples how to fight in an appropriate way. “There are so many things we need to fight about, things that are within me that need to be fought,” says Magauta.
Every relationship has seasons
Nhlanhla said that it is important to pay attention to your physical and emotional, spiritual, and financial state, and your selfishness before you give up on your marriage.
“Our lives were disrupted by things that came into our relationship, we lost jobs, relationships, people we love, we lost people we were depending on, we lost homes. When we think it is this relationship that is the problem, it is possible that your relationship wasn’t ready for the pressure.”
Magauta and Nhlanhla Zwane encouraged couples to practice forgiveness and said that this doesn’t necessarily imply condoning cruel behaviour, but it does allow you to go forward.
They also encouraged Kaya 959 listeners to keep in mind that in a marriage they’re on the same team and that they need to accept that individuals are doing their best and try to be a little more understanding.
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