Kaya 959 Reporter
When two parents separate, there tends to be conflicts that arise with regards to who will take care of the child.
Instances, where a mother withdraws access to the child when the father enters a new relationship, are common in society.
Though there are always instances where parents have disagreements, it’s always recommended that parents find common ground to avoid alienating a child from the other parent.
Thomas and Skhumba and Kaya 959 listeners this morning gave advice to a father who has been having challenges with the mother of his child.
He has been finding challenges with finding healthy ways to co-parent, the mother of his child has been depriving him of access to his child.
Some advice that the Kaya 959 listeners gave to anonymous gave him hope for a speedy resolution to his problems.
‘The mother of the child should appreciate the effort made by the child’s father.’
Anonymous spoke about how he still continues to pay for the mother’s rent and contributes to the child’s wellbeing. However, it’s harder to move on with his life as the mother continues to threaten him with disappearing with the child.
One listener gave advice to the baby’s mother to appreciate his efforts, saying she isn’t getting the support from her baby’s father she enjoys.
‘Know your rights as a parent
One Kaya 959 listener shared on social media the rights of the father in this kind of situation.
If the mother doesntpitch up. U wil get a temporary order. Afte the parentin plan is done, if 1 goes against it u can report to the Social Worker, court or SAPS.
— _maradebe_lwandi (@_maradebe_) January 24, 2022
go to the court in the area that the child lives in. Chapter 2 of the Children’s Act No 38 of 2005. #ThomasAndSkhumba
‘Consider approaching Family Court’
One listener advises anonymous to consider approaching the family court, this is usually the best bet if a resolution isn’t found.
‘Consider following the traditional route’
One listener suggested that the damages for the child be paid in full in a traditional way, to allow for the father rightful access.


