By: Natasha Archary
Is jealousy the same as marking your territory in a relationship? Some would say a little jealousy can go a long way in keeping the relationship exciting and shows your partner that you care.
But, there’s nothing healthy about jealousy and it’s a pretty toxic trait to have as it leads to a host of controlling characteristics.
Marking your territory however is a healthy way to set clear boundaries, expectations and shows your partner that they are important to you.
On Kaya Drive with Sizwe Dhlomo, many listeners felt it necessary to take “ownership” of their relationship.
What was common to note was that most people want to an extent to be claimed by their significant others. The difficult part is differentiating between jealousy and being territorial.
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Being jealous vs marking your territory
Some people view being territorial in relationships as possessive behaviour and while there may be crossover traits, it’s not the same as jealousy.
Possessive people are often jealous and insecure and they aim to control their partner’s behaviour. Territorial partners are different and don’t try to control their partner and the relationship is built on trust.
Clearly defined boundaries makes it easy to identify where the territory begins and ends.
Jealousy
- Not wanting your partner to engage with his/her ex because you’re scared they’re going to cheat
- Getting upset when someone checks out your partner
- Hating that your person is out socialising without you
- Acting out when your partner spends time with their friends of both genders
- You need to know where your partner is at all times
Being territorial
- You don’t want your partner to engage with his/her ex because you don’t trust the ex
- When someone looks at your partner you simply put your arm around them, you’re with an attractive person, it’s expected
- Giving your partner space to socialise without you because you trust him/her
- Being comfortable when your partner is out with their friends
- You’re not tracker and you don’t need your partner to check in with you at all times
This is how Kaya Drive listeners feel about being territorial:
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VN 1 TERRITORY
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VN 2 TERRITORY
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VN 3 TERRITORY
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VN 4 TERRITORY
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VN 5 TERRITORY
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VN 6 TERRITORY
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VN 7 TERRITORY
Also read: Kaya Drive – 5 reasons you shouldn’t stay in a dead-end relationship


