The idea that there’s a one-and-only soulmate out there for everybody is something we would like to believe, but is it really true? It might seem unrealistic to some of us, but it’s an authentic and valid feeling for many.
It is absolutely possible to fall in love with more than one person. We’ve all had relationships where we’ve loved our partners, but we’ve also moved on from those and found someone new to love.
Your new relationship may not be the same as the one that just ended and you may love them differently from your ex. The problem is however when you feel that your new-found love does not measure up to your ex.
Kgomotso Meso, standing in on Kaya Drive, shares how a guy she once dated messed it up for all her potential partners. She described him as loving and an overachiever, which spoiled it for the rest who came after.
One Kaya Drive fan said: “I have this one partner who just loved me right, and it was challenging to adjust to my current partners loving.”
So how do you prevent this from happening?
Expectations vs reality
Stop expecting perfection, this sets couples up for disaster. Putting pressure on your partner to play a certain role or be a certain type of person is not fair to you or them. Consider your relationship an addition to an already great life filled with friends, hobbies, family and work, and not your entire life.
When we start dating, we look for similarities with our future bae. We want to be liked, and not show too much of our true selves for fear of disapproval. Although it is human to do this, try to show as much of your real self as possible, and encourage your partner to do the same.
Let us know on Facebook or Twitter if you think your partner doesn’t measure up to your ex.