Mental health issues are a real big deal in our communities, and many people are go through a lot of traumas, loss, and depression.
Thomas and Skhumba spoke about the importance of finding an outlet to deal with what your issues.
Listen to the full conversation here:
Skhumba spoke about how in his circle of friends there’s rarely someone saying they are going through counseling. Whether to deal with loss, heartbreak, bereavement, losing custody of their kids, men typically don’t speak about their struggles with other men. There are different way people men typically hide what they are going through.
“Some of us decide to find things that are a distraction. I don’t know what you distract yourself with, some distract themselves with distract themselves with alcohol, sex, drugs, violence, I’ve seen some of my friends go quite for no reason.” says Skhumba
According to SADAG, men in South Africa still don’t consider counseling as a viable option to deal with mental health.
“Our society continues to perpetuate the myth of male strength and invincibility. Although the times are changing, many South African men still feel that it is “unmanly” to admit to weakness or vulnerability.
Kaya listeners weighed in on how they are dealing with their mental health.
I have Lost my brother in 2006 4th August, He was gunned down by a police official and till to date no one knows what really happened especially his friends who were with him when that happened. I’m still not Okay until today💔💔💔 #ThomasAndSkhumba
— JABU. N (@JABUN78623509) July 29, 2021
@KayaON959 it’s difficult to open up guys. Especially being brought up with the belief that men doesn’t cry. But I support going for counseling. We go through traumatic experiences and brush off, and it shouldn’t be the case. #ThomasAndSkhumba
— Musawenkosi Kumalo (@EkhayaKumalo) July 29, 2021
— Mabheleni (@BhelelakwaBhaca) July 29, 2021
Find Someone you are comfortable with
You may find it helpful to talk to your partner, a relative or a friend about your problems. They may be concerned about you and welcome the opportunity to hear what you have to say.
Find someone who validates you and your feelings. #ThomasAndSkhumba
— Bev4TeamSussex (@Bev4TeamSussex) July 29, 2021
A caller on the show Connie share important information where you can get free counseling, she also encouraged men to go for therapy.
Thank you for being vulnerable with us this morning! We’re attaching the details for @lifelinejhb for those who need to talk.
— Kaya 959 (@KayaON959) July 29, 2021