Katlego Sekhu
Romantic break-ups can be difficult to navigate, and everyone seems to have their own advice on how to move forward after a relationship ends.
Some believe “time heals all wounds.” Others suggest dating new people, focusing on your career, or keeping yourself distracted. But what about simply pretending you’re over it?
Could telling yourself you’ve moved on be the secret to healing?
The Drive 959 team recently shared their thoughts and personal experiences on the emotional process of getting over a break-up.
Kgomotso Meso reflected on how easy it is to become consumed by heartbreak.
“We can get swallowed up in that feeling,” she said.
“But you might find your footing much quicker than you expected if you accept that it’s over and shift your focus elsewhere. You’ll actually realise that you have the strength and ability to move forward without this person who was once part of your life.”
Glen Lewis compared the pain of a break-up to a toothache.
“When someone you love ends the relationship, you might think you’ll be fine after 20 minutes then comes the pain,” he explained.
“It’s like a toothache. It starts at zero, then gets worse and worse. What makes it so difficult to move on is the time you’ve spent with that person. It becomes hard to get them out of your system. Some memories will always stay with you.”
Skhumba added that people often believe they’ve moved on before they’ve truly processed what they’re feeling.
“Sometimes you might move on too quickly without having actually dealt with the emotions. You think you’re fine, but you haven’t processed anything.”
To hear the full discussion, listen to the podcast.
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