By: Natasha Archary

From last will & testaments, savings, to adult items we don’t want anyone finding, the Drive 959 team wanted to know what secret items people keep hidden.
The responses reveal that everyone has kept something secret hidden from family, friends, spouses or their children and for good reason, some things are just not meant to find the light of day.
Listeners shared their reasons for keeping something hidden, whether it is medication for an illness they’re silently battling or the title deed for their home, the question is does keeping the secret hurt or protect their relationships?
In some instances many felt keeping secrets from their partner or hiding certain things is an attempt to protect their feelings, and hope it won’t backfire in the end.
A relationship or marriage that is riddled with secrets is considered deceptive, especially when what you’re hiding from your partner is as serious as infidelity.
Apart from infidelity, hiding financial troubles, your reasons for wanting or not wanting to have children, job issues or business trouble are all huge secrets that will often be viewed as a betrayal.
Some of the secrets that can make or break a relationship or marriage are:
Finances
Finances play a huge role in a relationship, especially in a marriage. Finances are one of the top three reasons for conflict in marriage. It’s important to discuss your financial goals with your partner as well as how you both feel about spending and saving before walking down the aisle.
Values
Another important aspect of ensuring a successful marriage is discussing your values. We all have individual values and goals, and marrying a person who doesn’t share the same values as you, or won’t support them, will cause conflict in marriage and sometimes even lead to divorce.
Don’t hide your core values from your partner, as it could cause tension with relation to religious or family beliefs.
Personal problems
Partners who try to get through personal problems without involving their significant others often learn that it would have been better to just disclose their issues from the start.
While you’re not expecting your partner to solve your personal problems, having them in your life means you have a sounding board for advice and to offer you support and understanding.
Listen to the conversation on Drive 959:
Also read: The pros and cons of widespread CCTV surveillance



