Katlego Sekhu

A listener recently reached out to The Best T in the City with Tbose to share a concern about his wife’s clinginess. He expressed his deep love for her but admitted feeling trapped because he couldn’t spend time with his friends without her becoming jealous. He’s seeking advice from fellow listeners to determine if his concerns are coming from a selfish or unreasonable place.
“When I met my wife, she had a good number of friends; however, soon after we got married, she stopped going out with her friends and only wanted to go out with me. While I love and appreciate that she loves to go out with me, I am starting to feel trapped as I can’t do anything alone. I asked her why she doesn’t join a stokvel or be friends with my friends’ partners, but she refused.
“It is as though her life revolves around me. When I tell her that I am going out, she gets mad at me. But like any other person, I need my downtime with my friends. Going home after work is not fun. How can I show her that she needs a life of her own? I love her, but this clinginess annoys me. Am I being too hard on her, or am I being selfish?
Anonymous
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