Katlego Sekhu
A listener recently shared that his wife’s ex-husband passed away, and she has been struggling to come to terms with the loss.
During the first few months, he understood her grief and offered support. However, he now feels the situation is beginning to strain their relationship.
He explains that his wife frequently gives him the cold shoulder, and they have not been intimate in months.
“Uncle T, last year around September we received a call that my wife’s ex-husband had passed in a car accident. The news shocked us and left my wife and step-son distraught. The very same day, my wife and I drove to the exes’ place. The week went by, at the funeral, my wife’s family, our two kids, including my own family, we all went to show support.
“It has been a few months now, but my wife has not come to terms with her ex-husband’s passing. Like things are so bad, my wife and I have not been intimate, she does not want to go out, she randomly cries. I mean the first two months I understood and really supported her and my step-son, but wow, I am getting frustrated.
“My step-son even seems to be doing much better than her. I have tried talking to my wife but she seems to not hear me and keeps asking for some time. I get that her ex was her high school sweetheart, but he was abusive and a serial cheater, hence they divorced, so her reaction has been somewhat shocking, you would swear she is mourning me.
“I feel like she is being inconsiderate, but could it be that her ex was her real soulmate and I was just a convenience? Am I being too hard on my wife? What could be my blind spot?”
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