Katlego Sekhu
A listener shared that when he met his girlfriend, she was in the early stages of pregnancy. Her child’s father had left them, so the listener stepped in and supported his girlfriend through the pregnancy.
They raised the child together. Three years later, the baby daddy wants to come back into the picture and play a part in the child’s life. However, this doesn’t sit well with the listener.
He feels like they are just welcoming him back after he disappeared when he was needed the most.
“When I met my girlfriend, she was about three months pregnant. She never hid it from me, and I chose to step up as her baby daddy ghosted her. Both our families know that I am not the father. My mother, however, said I should have stepped away from the get-go but I love this girl and chose to support her.
“The child is now three years old and a few months ago, my girlfriend told me that baby Daddy reached out to her and apologised for ghosting them. He now wants to be a father. This news caught me off-guard and what hurts me is how my girlfriend and her mother want to allow him back and be a part of the child’s life. I was there for her every step of the way and from the minute the child was born, I raised her as my own.
“Now, I am expected to just be okay with this man wanting to come back and no one is even asking him the tough questions. The baby daddy even wants to introduce the child to his family and do a ceremony and I have been asked not to attend. I honestly feel let down and used.
“My girlfriend has assured me that she loves and appreciates all I have done and that she won’t leave me but also says this is the right thing to do. I know we are not married and should not feel entitled to anything but surely this is wrong or am I being selfish? What could be my blind spot?”
