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To maintain a healthy relationship, it’s crucial to have open and honest conversations about finances, set shared financial goals, and work together to achieve them This is an area anonymous is struggling with in her relationship. Her partner has a tendency to complain when she needs financial assistance.
“Hi, bra T. I’ve been in a relationship for almost two years now. My partner was in a toxic relationship with an older lady. Apparently, he used to support her (buy her groceries, give her transport money, assist with repairing and maintaining the lady’s house, buy them clothes, etc.). I Didn’t see anything wrong with what he did, as he did it out of love, or so I thought. He told me that when I need financial help,
I should let him know about 2 to 3 weeks before my payday, but it shouldn’t be “molao” (a must), as in he must always do so. He said he doesn’t want a person to live off of him. I understood, as I believed he was setting boundaries, though the last statement I found to be rude and unnecessary. My issue is that he keeps repeating this randomly every month and sometimes repeating it 2x or 3x a month. It is funny because l have never asked him for financial assistance since we met. Right now, I have even stopped asking him to buy me snacks that won’t cost R50.
He says ke tseyadilo ka le fatlha (I take things too seriously), and he is not wrong. I have learnt that people tell you how to treat them, and you need to take that seriously. I am a working lady, and I support myself fully. Lately, he feels offended when I don’t want anything he offers. I did what he asked me to do, and when I did it, it offended him.
This is so confusing.
Anonymous”
Kaya 959 listeners gave anonymous advice on how she should approach her situation
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