Katlego Sekhu

A listener shares that her partner of almost a decade wants to have a child. However, he doesn’t believe in the institution of marriage and this is a non negotiable for her.
While she loves her partner and believes he’ll be a great father, she doesn’t want to have kids without a ring on her finger.
Anonymous is caught between compromising her beliefs for her relationship. Reaching out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, she wants to know if there are any blind spots she could be overlooking.
“My partner and I have been together for 7 years. Things between us have been great, and I can confidently say he is the love of my life.
“For the past two years, he has been asking me to have a child. I’ve always been clear that I don’t want to have a child unless I’m married. However, he doesn’t believe in the institution of marriage.
“His parents are still married, but he insists that marriage is just a binding contract and unnecessary. He believes we can simply be life partners. He’s 34, and I’m 33.
“While I love him and trust that he would be a great father, I’m struggling to break this boundary. I do want to have children with him, but I also want a ring to come with the children. Am I being unreasonable? Or, in today’s world, should I accept that marriage isn’t as much of a priority for everyone? Should I give him the baby and hope for the best? What could be my blind spot?”
#TheBlindSpot
— #MothoWaBatho (@tboseZA) May 30, 2025
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