Katlego Sekhu

A listener shared that she was recently invited to a friend’s wedding. Having given birth just four months earlier and experiencing separation anxiety, she decided to bring her baby along.
However, out of respect for her friend’s wishes, she chose not to attend the wedding ceremony itself and only joined the reception briefly.
Despite this, her friend was upset and later expressed that the presence of the baby had ruined her special day.
Anonymous, who believes she handled the situation with care and consideration, says she sees no wrongdoing on her part. She is now reaching out to fellow Best T in the City listeners to ask: could there be any blind spots she’s overlooking?
“My friend, got married a few weeks ago. On the wedding invite, she clearly stated that no kids were allowed. I gave birth four months ago, and initially, I planned to leave my baby with my mom. But the day before the wedding, I decided to take him with me because I’m still dealing with separation anxiety.
“Out of respect for her wishes, I chose not to attend the nuptials ceremony, just the reception and planned to leave shortly after the speeches. My baby was calm for most of the time and only cried once, at which point I stepped outside to soothe him. Before I left, I greeted my friend and took a few photos with her. I noticed she didn’t seem happy, but I brushed it off and quietly left.
“The next morning, I woke up to a lengthy message from her, stating that she felt disrespected. She said that if I didn’t have a nanny, I should have stayed home and accused me of being selfish and attention-seeking. Her message really hurt. To me, my son is still so small – I didn’t think he would cause much disruption, especially compared to older kids. I explained this to her, but it didn’t seem to make a difference. We haven’t spoken since.
“As a mother herself, I thought she would be empathetic and more understanding. I truly didn’t mean any harm, and I also sent this to her via text. I have conflicting feelings; it was her big day, and I wouldn’t have missed it for anything, equally, I had a baby to care for. I did what I thought was best to strike a balance between the two. And I’m labelled as attention-seeking.
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