Katlego Sekhu

A listener shared that he and his girlfriend are in a long-term relationship, and he has caught her cheating on more than one occasion. He has forgiven her because he loves her; however, he can’t shake the feeling that she might cheat on him again. Reaching out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, Anonymous wants to know if there are any blind spots he could be overlooking.
“I have been in a long-distance relationship for about two years. The woman I’m dating has two kids from different fathers. Around June, she cheated on me, and when I confronted her, she said she was missing intimacy as I couldn’t be with her every time she had a need. I called it off, as I can’t be the only one who’s loyal.
“She then tried to build relationships with the guys she cheated with, but two months later, she came running back asking for my forgiveness. The reason was that the man’s family disapproved of her. I took her back because I love her. Ever since that incident, I’ve been insecure about her and I don’t see her the same way as I did before. I keep having images of her and him in my mind, and it’s tearing me apart. Lately, she keeps saying I should come back because she needs intimacy regularly. I’m scared that she will go back to her old ways again.
“She tells me that there are guys who make moves on her, but she chooses to remain loyal even though it’s difficult. Recently, I introduced myself to her family and reassured them that I wanted to marry their daughter upon my return. I do love her and want to be with her, but I’m scared that she seems to be controlled by her sexual desires and any convincing guy would bed her. I’m in love but I’m not free. I can’t be in two places at the same time. Is my love for her a blind spot?”
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