Katlego Sekhu

A listener shares that she met this woman on a night out recently, and they hit it off. He has caught feelings and wants them to be exclusive; however, he feels that she is only using him for sex as she always leaves after they have the deed.
“I started seeing this woman early this year. We met at a mutual friend’s party, and we just hit it off. However, I can’t help but feel like she just wants a casual relationship where we just have sex, and that’s it. She doesn’t care to go out with me; all she wants is to come over to my place, and even then, we just have sex, and then she leaves.
“Most of my boys don’t understand what the big deal is, but I genuinely like this woman and would like to have a deeper relationship with her. I feel I am just being used for sex, and I feel as though my ego as a man is
also taking a knock.“Is this what dating is all about these days? That we, as men, have damaged women to such an extent that they are now behaving like us? What may she be going through? This may help me understand her and use it to open her heart to love me. I need to win her heart.”
Anonymous
Someone on X suggested that the listener needs to be honest with her about his intentions and put his ego aside. “Having open conversations might help us both be more honest and figure out where we stand. I need to approach this with the right mindset.”
Another person advised him to go with the flow and give her space to figure things out. “Maybe she’s going through something, and pushing for a serious relationship right now could push her away. I need to be patient and enjoy the journey.”
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