Katlego Sekhu
An anonymous 40-year-old woman finds herself in love with a man twenty years her senior, aged 60, who also happens to be a polygamist. The gentleman has let her know of his intention to make her his fourth wife. This coming December, he’s set to initiate the formal process by sending a letter to her family. However, Anonymous grapples with whether or not to disclose this information to her family, considering there might be concerns about his polygamous lifestyle.
“I’m in a relationship with a 60-year-old man, and the connection between us is incredibly strong. Despite the age gap and his polygamous status, we share a deep and genuine affection. He plans to send a proposal letter to my family this December to initiate the process of marriage. However, I haven’t yet disclosed the relationship to my parents.
“Following my best friend’s advice, I’m contemplating whether I should have an open conversation with my parents about our relationship dynamics before the formal steps are taken. On the other hand, I feel that the truth will inevitably surface one way or another. My feelings for this man are unwavering, and I am resolute about my decision to spend my life with him. Yet, could I be overlooking any important aspects by keeping this from my parents?”
A fellow listener shares their perspective: “I don’t foresee any inherent issue here. In fact, her parents might find joy in her upcoming union. She’s reached an age where she comprehends her choices and their implications. Such a profound commitment is rare.”
Conversely, another listener offers a differing viewpoint: “It seems that Anonymous is less concerned about her parents discovering her partner’s polygamous nature and more concerned about the shared age. This might be the crux of her worry.”
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