By Katlego Sekhu
This week 959 Breakfast with Dineo Ranaka and Sol Phenduka discussed “why people change when dating vs when they are married.”
“Why do we act differently when married as if there is a certain code for boyfriend/girlfriend behavior vs husband/wife behavior?”
Dineo posed this question Kaya 959 listeners.
Sol Phenduka is of the view that there shouldn’t be any change once people get married.
“As soon as you start saying wife/husband material then you are falling into the trap that most people fall into when they get married and become stiff and things no longer become fun.”
One listener doesn’t believe people change in marriage.
“Those things they do when they are married are things they are afraid to do when they are dating. Be upfront about your likes and dislikes from day one from day one.”
Another listener says the love amongst couples should never change.
“What makes a good husband/wife is love. The same charming spells that they followed, in the beginning, should not actually change – that should be the culture.”
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