By: Natasha Archary
The “grass is greener” syndrome applies to more than just relationships. It’s when you feel that what you have, where you are in life, the situation you are experiencing or who you are with is not as good as something or someone else.
It’s not necessarily that you regret your decision but there is a level of doubt where you feel you haven’t traded up and should have just stuck with what you had.
On Thursday, Kaya Drive with Sizwe Dhlomo touched on “Whether you ever experienced a case of the grass is greener syndrome,” and what was it?
Remember when you were a kid and you thought, “I can’t wait to be older, so I don’t have to deal with school,”? Only to be done with high school and get into tertiary or land your first job and catch yourself thinking, “Yeah, no I would give anything to go back to those school days and escape this thing called adulting!”
That, in a nutshell, is what grass is greener syndrome is and when it comes to relationships many people find they can’t shake the feeling that their current partner doesn’t meet all their requirements and that there’s someone better out there for them.
When you break it down further, you’ll discover that the syndrome is really just exaggerated self-doubt.
Many Kaya Drive listeners could relate to the topic:
As humans, we’re biologically programmed to want growth, improve and aim for more in life, however being dissatisfied with what you have and obsessing about an alternative scenario is not healthy.
When allowed to fester, these thoughts become an issue as the grass is greener syndrome can cloud vision where the individual feels capable of getting more than they currently have.
Moral of the story? Be like Siz and water where you are, so the grass can be greener under you!