Anonymous thinks she’s found the love of her life, but her family thinks otherwise
Katlego Sekhu

A listener shares that she met a man from West Africa online. Due to unforeseen circumstances, it took some time before they could meet in person. She says he has been attentive and ensured she is well cared for, even though they are dating long-distance.
They are already discussing the possibility of him relocating to South Africa, but her friends are sceptical, questioning whether his intentions might be driven solely by a desire for citizenship.
Reaching out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, Anonymous wants to know if there are any blind spots she might be overlooking.
“I’m talking to this guy from West Africa while planning a trip there. The booking was confirmed, but sadly, my daughter passed away and I had to cancel. When I emailed him, he was so supportive that he even refunded me the full amount. He kept in touch, sending well wishes and comfort.
“He’s stationed in the Mediterranean, not at his home in West Africa, but we’ve been communicating ever since. Eventually, I travelled to his country, and he made sure I was well taken care of, arranging everything remotely. Honestly, he’s the most beautiful soul l’ve ever met, and he truly makes me smile.
“We’ve been discussing his potential move back to the continent, possibly to his home country or even South Africa. But he insists he won’t come here without a career and his own place because, as he says, a man must be able to provide for his family.
“Here’s my dilemma: he’s much younger than I am. My friends warn that he may only want citizenship or a SugaMama. On top of that, he wants a child, and my age makes that complicated. But despite all this, I feel l’ve found someone I can honestly and sincerely love.
“He’s already told me he loves me, but I haven’t been able to say it back, not because I don’t feel it, but because of all the doubts my circle has planted in me. And to be honest, I haven’t even met him face-to-face yet. He’s tall, dark, with the most beautiful eyes and smile – but what I cherish is how he makes me feel. Am I missing something here? Because this man feels like everything I didn’t know I need.”
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