Zuko Komisa

Anonymous recently reached out to The Best T In The City to share that he is having a growing tension between admiring his wife’s vibrant life and wishing for more of her presence at home, especially now with two young children.
He is now grappling with whether it would be unfair to ask her to scale back her personal hobbies and interests for the sake of the family.
“Uncle T, From the minute we started dating, my wife has always been someone with a wide range of interests. She’s a runner, part of a book club, enjoys attending events, and loves trying out new restaurants. I support all of this-however, we had our second child late last year, and I thought that would slow her down, but nothing has changed.
She’s stuck to her routine. We have a live-in nanny who takes care of the kids, but I would love my wife to be more involved as a mother. I just feel like she spends more time outside the home on her hobbies than with the family. I love that she has a life outside of being a wife and mother, but sometimes it feels like those roles rank low on her list of priorities.
I love my wife and admire her independence, but for our kids to have the best of motherly love, would be for her to slow down. Would it be selfish or wrong of me to ask her to give up some of her leisure activities? I just want more family time and for our kids to be raised more by their mom than by the nanny. What could be my blind spot? – Anonymous”
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