Katlego Sekhu
A listener shared that after his wife passed away, he was left to raise their two children alone. Recently, his 10-year-old daughter expressed a desire to move out and live with her aunt.
However, he is hesitant about this arrangement, as he doesn’t believe the aunt is a suitable role model due to her party-centric lifestyle.
He reached out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, asking how to approach this delicate situation without hurting his daughter’s feelings.
“Bra T, my wife passed away, leaving me to raise our 5-year-old and 10-year-old. It has not been easy, but I pushed through as a father.
“My daughter is turning 15 this year, and a few weeks back, she asked me to live with her aunt. I asked her why, and she told me that she feels she needs a mother figure. While she appreciates me, there are things I can’t do for her.
“I get her point, but I don’t think my sister-in-law is a good example. She is a party girl, and I am afraid that she won’t rub off on my daughter well. I tried explaining to my baby girl that I am not comfortable with her being away from me, but she is miserable.
“Do I ignore my instincts as her father and let her aunt, whom I don’t trust, take over from here on and hope she does a good job? Or should I put my foot down and tell my daughter she is going nowhere, especially now in her adolescent stage?
“Yes, I work a lot and don’t spend much time with her, but I fear my child will end up like her aunt. I also don’t want to seem like I failed raising my only girl. What could be my blind spot?”
Read Next: Steven Pienaar turns 43, wife writes touching message
