Zuko Komisa
Anonymous urgently needs a new helper as her original helper fell pregnant last year.
She reached out to The Best T In the City as her suggestion to bring in her male cousin has caused a rift with her husband who is uncomfortable with the idea.
Her husband feels there will be a power imbalance and that he may be a threat to the family’s privacy and security.
Anonymous argues that her cousin is part of the family and she knows we can trust him.
“Uncle T, our helper, fell pregnant last year and decided to step down. We have been struggling to find someone, but we coped during the December holidays. It’s crunch time, and we are under pressure to find a replacement. My mother suggested that we take my male cousin, and I think it’s a brilliant idea.
He is currently a cleaner at one of the malls, but more than anything, he can also drive, so he can double as a driver to fetch our boys from school since my hubby and I commute in one car. My husband, however, refuses. He says there is no way he is going to have another man know the corners of his house like that. He says we must keep looking, but I don’t see his point.
My cousin is part of the family, and I know we can trust him. This whole situation has brought about a gender war conversation in our home. I don’t understand why hubby feels only women can do this job. What’s worse, my husband is not even involved in trying to get someone, so I am left to stress about finding someone while my cousin is available.
I want to call my cousin and offer him this job, but I also don’t want to defy hubby. Why do you think he is refusing to see the double benefit we will gain from having my cousin work for us? Is it because my mom suggested it? What could be my blind spot? – Anonymous”
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