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A listener shares that whenever he and his wife argue, she moves to sleep in their daughter’s room. What he finds puzzling is that, while she carries on as normal—cooking, cleaning, and handling all her usual routines—she just doesn’t sleep in the same room as him.
He’s starting to worry that his wife may have emotionally checked out of their marriage. Although he wants to discuss it with her, he fears it might upset her even more. Reaching out to The Best T in the City, Anonymous wonders if there are any blind spots he might be missing.
“Whenever my wife and I argue, she goes to sleep with our 5-year-old daughter. This usually lasts a few days, but this time it’s been over two months.
“She talks to me and behaves normally in every other way—cooking, doing my laundry, and even preparing my work lunches—yet she hasn’t returned to our room. I initially thought she needed space and didn’t want to pressure her, but now I’m starting to feel concerned.
“A friend suggested she might be distancing herself as part of a bigger plan, but I’m confused. She speaks kindly to me and treats me well otherwise, so I’m unsure what this distance really means.
“I want to sit down with her, but I’m also worried about what she might say. I’ve apologised for the argument we had, which she accepted, but it doesn’t seem to have been enough.
“Ladies, how can I approach this without escalating things? I don’t want to rehash past arguments; I just want us to move forward, for her to come back to our room. Am I missing something here?”
#TheBlindSpot
— T. (@tboseZA) November 8, 2024
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