Katlego Sekhu

A frustrated listener recently reached out to The Best T in the City with Tbose. He shared that his girlfriend is outgoing and flashy, while he is more reserved. He doesn’t have an issue with her personality, but he feels like she is trying to change him into someone he’s not.
He’s wondering if there’s a way to make their relationship work without him having to compromise who he is.
“I have been with my girlfriend for over two years. Things have been going well, but sometimes I feel as though she wants to change me. I have a good-paying job, and I am very stable financially however, I live a very simple life, and I think this annoys her. She is always asking me why don’t I move to the burbs, why I don’t change my car, and even questions my clothing. I love her but I can’t help but feel she wants to change me to who she thinks I should be.
“I know and understand that she loves the finer things in life, and I don’t mind catering to her, however, I hate how she is always pushing me to be something I am not. I wonder if I will ever be good enough for her. I have no desire to leave Kasi and the life I have created for myself. I just don’t get why I need to live a certain lifestyle just because I can afford it.
“There must be a way I can align her with my vision and accept me for who I am. How and what do I say? She has an opinion about everything, and I usually let her be, but this time I want her to listen to me and hear me. As much as I don’t want to lose her, I am also not willing to be someone I am not. Advice Please.”
Anonymous
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