Katlego Sekhu
A listener recently shared that her husband took in his sister’s kids after she passed away. Now, he has brought up the idea of legally adopting them. This caught the listener off guard because her husband had never mentioned adopting her child from a previous relationship. She loves the kids as if they were her own, but she feels uneasy about the situation. She wants to know if there’s something she might be missing and seeks advice from fellow Best T in the City listeners.
“Last year, my sister-in-law passed away, leaving two kids behind. The kids’ father is a deadbeat. Hubby decided that since it was only him and his other sister, we should take the kids in. I agreed, but now my husband wants to legally adopt his nephews, and I’m feeling a bit uneasy about this. I came into the marriage with only one child, and my husband and I have one child. He has never discussed officially adopting the kids with me. He has never brought up adopting my child from his previous relationship. In my defense, I feel he has played a fatherly role for a long time. If he is legally adopting the kids, that means I must also share my money with them.
“Should I die first? What is going to happen to my child? That means he’ll be left to fend for himself. Yes, I do have a great relationship with the children, but I feel this thing should be discussed with the paternal family of the children, and we should see how we get to the bottom of this. Because, at the end of the day, I also want to protect my kids and their future. Would I be wrong?”
One listener offers advice to the couple, suggesting that they should adopt everyone and then create a will.
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