Katlego Sekhu

A listener who is getting married this December should be eagerly anticipating one of the most significant moments in her life. However, she finds herself torn between her mother’s suggestion that her lobola money should go to her stepfather and her own belief that it should be given to her grandfather in honour of her late father.
“I am happy because my boyfriend will be paying lobola this year. I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him. Sadly, my dad passed away many years ago, and my mom married my dad’s cousin, meaning she continued using my dad’s surname. My mom is suggesting that the lobola money go to her now-husband.
“Personally, I feel the money should go to my grandfather, as he will be accepting it on behalf of his son. Am I wrong for wanting this? Yes, I understand that my mom remarried, but I feel we should honour my grandfather. He will decide what he does with the money once he receives it.”
Anonymous
One listener supports Anonymous’s wish for the lobola money to be given to her grandfather, who is “supposed to fill the role of her late father.” According to her, the decision of where the money goes “should rest with him.”
On the other hand, another listener argues that lobola money should not be given to an individual. “That is the money that goes towards the wedding. It is also not her call; the parents must be the ones making the decision.”
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