Katlego Sekhu

Anonymous shares that after her divorce, she joined various dating sites, and that has led to the best sex of her life. She recently met a man who wants to take things to the next level. But she feels that for their relationship to thrive, she must continue to have sex on the side, as she prefers the dance with younger men.
“I have just come out of a messy and bad divorce. When I say it drained me, I mean it. However, one thing it did not drain was my sex drive. Once my partner and I separated, I got onto dating sites, and let’s just say there has never been a dry spell, and I have been enjoying being sexually free and doing the deed as and when I wanted to.
“During my sex escapades, I met a great guy. And now that my divorce is finalized, he wants us to move in together and take things to the next level. However, while he is not bad in bed, I have come to realize that I now prefer sex with younger men; they satisfy me and make up for what my new bae cannot do.
“I believe that for my relationship to survive, I need to continue to see my sex partners. I feel I should just come clean, but another part of me says I must just continue to snack on the side in secrecy.”
Anonymous
A listener believes it is possible to have it both ways. “She just needs to be open with the new guy. When it comes to such relationships, honesty is important, and a lot of guys are up for open relationships.”
One listener notes that Anonymous needs to heal from all the pain that she is carrying. “The residue of all that pain and exhaustion from the divorce, which she said drained her. What she is doing now is passing on the pain without even knowing it. She is passing it on through her sexual activities,” she said.
Tumelo says Anonymous is not ready to take things a step further. “Point number two: do unto others as you wish them to do unto you. If the tables were turned, would she rather have the guy tell her that he is snacking on younger girls, or would he rather not know?”
Read Next: Working parents are burnt out and feel unsupported by employers



