By Katlego Sekhu
Anonymous is starting to question the legitimacy of his relationship. He and his partner have been together for over 15 years and have 3 kids together. However, after various attempts, she still hasn’t accepted his marriage proposal.
“I have been with my girlfriend and mother to my three kids for 15 years. When I started finding my feet financially, I brought up the topic of marriage but she never really entertained it.
“Five years ago I decided to surprise her and sent my uncles to show her how serious I am. But she told her father that she is not yet ready to jump the broom. I was obviously shocked and disappointed but I didn’t want to put pressure on her. Five years later she is still not budging.
“I am starting to question If am the problem or if she doesn’t really care for marriage. Should I stop pushing and accept that I am in my fat n-sit area? What do you say?”
One listener says the partner might be afraid that things will change if they get married. “If my brother you are not the problem, she wouldn’t have given you three children. She might be afraid that something will change after marriage. I am a traditionalist and always advocate for marriage. I don’t know the nature of your relationship but don’t ruin something nice,” he advised.
Another listener, Wendy believes finances could be at play here.
“How is the financial situation of the lady? Most women would love to get married to a man they love. However, if she is making more money than him – she’ll never not so she can protect her wealth,” she said.
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