By Katlego Sekhu
On The Blindspot this week, anonymous says his woman is “visibly upset” because he “wasn’t able to give her money” and wants to know if he’s at fault.
“I am a guy who believes in giving his woman money to spoil herself at the end of every month, but this month it’s tough because I have a couple of things that I need to cover. I can see that she is visibly unhappy. I personally just feel like she’s being selfish.
“Am I right in feeling this way or have I created an unrealistic expectation and this is maybe the blindspot that I’m missing?”
anonymous
One caller says people must understand that months will differ so expectations must be managed,
“What a lot of people are failing to understand is that if you are in a committed relationship your partner needs to understand that you can’t always provide.
“Seasons change so if you’ve given her a heads up then it’s fine. You’ll give her money when you have it.”
Another caller believes anonymous is partly to blame for this.
“The guy is partly responsible because he created expectations. Our partners must be understanding because months will never be the same. It’s not necessarily a blind spot, you just need to sit down with your woman and explain your situation,” he said.
Money is a big cause of conflict in many relationships and the second most common reason for divorce after infidelity.
Relationship experts Magauta and Nhlanhla Zwane advise couples to prioritize ‘money talks’ just as much as romance.
“People start getting into relationships with people they are not willing to observe until it is too late… I believe you need to have money conversations as soon as you have made observations from this person that are money-related.” said Magauta.
These kinds of onversations are very important, especially in the beginninng, because you begin to see the chaacter of the person. Money is a revealer of character, when you see how someonne handles their money, itt tells you alot about them” added Nhlanhla.
Magauta and Nhlanhla Zwane on Point of View with Phemelo Motene
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