By: Natasha Archary
Grind in your 20s. Build in your 30s. Chill in your 40s. This is the general “advice” most people receive when they’re approaching adulthood.
But with circumstances changing and the current economic and unemployment climate, what happens if these goals aren’t met within the timeframes above?
Many adults are discovering that living up to these objectives is misleading and puts added pressure on them to succeed.
It’s okay to not have it all figured out in your 30s and equally as acceptable to further your studies or start a business late in your 40s.
The Feel Good conversation with Andy Maqondwana broached the touchy topic about the biggest lies listeners were told about their 30s.
From falling in love in your 20s to getting married in your 30s and growing old together, only to end up divorced and raising kids as a single parent, many listeners shared that their life didn’t turn out like the fairytale version they were promised.
Tread carefully into your 30s
The generalisation that you should be married in your 30s, own your first home as a couple, and already have started a family suggests that an adult is in a stable career and secure financially.
You have to be if you’re a parent right? But what if as an adult woman you don’t see yourself married but you want children?
The term is “self-partnered” and more adults in their 30s are choosing the single life. Which means the traditional nuclear family construct may not be everyone’s ultimate goal.
Landing your dream job in your 30s is also not a guarantee, with the unfair advantages and earned privileges playing a role in how people progress.
Some of the lies people were told about their 30s:
- You’ll save money
- Earn a higher disposable income
- Buy your first home
- Have your first child
- Be married
- Accomplished professional
- Completed a degree
- Be well travelled
Also read: Kaya Drive: Does your relationship status affect your life’s milestones?
