By Kaya 959 Reporter
Couples argue all the time, but how you handle conflict can either strengthen or harm your relationship.
What type of fighter/arguer are you? Is your approach destroying your relationship? Are you willing to change how you fight with your partner?
On the Best T in the city this morning, Tbose asked Kaya listeners to share their argument style and how it affects their relationship.
Reactions from listeners
“Hola Bra T, I’m a silent one. I wish I could change be a vocal becomes you bottle things up until your burst,” shared anonymous.
#HowDoYouFightInLove Bra T – I don’t fight anymore cos now I have found my perfect love position and language. I found that fighting in love was more to try and change someone’s behaviour and no one has that power. This love thing is beautiful tlheng, no need to fight in it. 🥂👸🏽
— Ms Mabs 👑👸🏽 (@TheQueenMsMabs) November 16, 2021
I walk away because I know I have a very sharp tongue. Words can cut very deep. When one is heated they try to protect/defend themselves at all cost and how one reacts when heated is usually different to when they are calm. I choose to 🚶♀️ to calm myself.#HowDoYouFightInLove
— Amogelang Makape 🦋 (@amogee) November 16, 2021
Fighting in love means communicating to build, not to break each other. In most cases fights are toxic because of how issues are addressed. Also the willingness to build is important when fighting in love. Do not break each. Speak when you are calm not angry. #HowDoYouFightInLove
— 🌹🌹🌹Nobantu🔥🔥🔥 (@prech_star) November 16, 2021
3TSpoons on: The Most Common Argument Styles In Relationships:
The Attacker: If your first feeling during an argument is to start pointing fingers and listing reasons why the other person is wrong, your argument style is to attack. The problem with this approach is that it’s just combative. You may get things off your chest, but all you’re doing is attacking your partner, and your message will get lost.
The Defender: When one partner in a relationship is the attacker, the other is usually the defender. Whenever you are wronged, you feel the need to defend yourself; this is your argument style. The problem is that this argument style creates more drama.
By engaging in defending, you’ve created a dynamic where you put yourself one step down from the other person.
The Withdrawer: If you are guarded during arguments, you’re most likely a withdrawer. Non-confrontational people favour this approach. You don’t engage in the fight, but your behavior doesn’t serve to resolve it either.
[3 TSpoons] On The Most Common Argument Styles In Relationships;
🥄 The Attacker
🥄 The Defender
🥄 The Withdrawer #HowDoYouFightInLove #TheBestTInTheCity pic.twitter.com/ZeDJhVQTvR
— On the street. On the air. (@KayaOnAir) November 16, 2021
