The Prince climbed the tower, rescued the fair maiden, declared his undying love for her and they lived happily ever after. Or did they?
Not-so-fun fact: Divorce in South Africa increased by 20% since level 4 lockdown
7 common reasons for marriages ending in divorce include:
- Marrying for all the wrong reasons
Financial stability, an arranged marriage, you were dating for eons so it was the next logical step – all tickets to a quick divorce.
- Lack of individual identity
Co-dependence is not healthy. Your own interests and views are quashed because it is not “in line” with your partner’s expectations. That’s just a polite way of saying you’re being controlled.
- Lost in the roles
Leaving your family, friends and single routine and replacing them with the chaotic car-pool runs, meetings, appointments and school calendars. Most couples forget to invest in quality time together. As the children grow and need less attention, many then realize that they have grown apart and go through their marriages in auto-pilot.
- Unmet expectations
Encrypted into every woman’s genetic code lies the belief that she can change the man she loves. Rid him of all the “bad” and make him whole. Thinking that if he treats you poorly, you can love him hard enough to change how he treats you, that things will get better, it just takes time. Abuse should not be tolerated. In any form.
It’s not usually the lack of finances that causes conflicts in marriages but rather the lack of compatibility in the financial area. You have different priorities when it comes to spending/saving. You no longer feel the need to disclose your financial situation to your partner, you do as you please and feel entitled to your discretion. Over time, this conflict can reach such highs that divorce seems to be the only logical conclusion.
- Intimacy disappears
Sex aside, intimacy is more than just intercourse. You no longer touch, caress, kiss or hold your partner. You don’t want to be touched, caressed, kissed or held by your partner. If it goes unchecked and unnoticed long enough, it’s only a matter of time before one or both partners realize that they are intimately estranged.
A staggering 48% of women polled cited emotional cheating as more deceptive than sexual infidelity. Hardly surprising as emotional cheating is essentially an affair of the heart.